14 November 2009
You can imagine just from the title of this entry which side I am on. That's right, the fairytale side. See, I believe in Love in the family, in friendships (most often), but when it comes to love between two people, I've got a whole different perception. I feel as though it does not exist, that some people who stay together for a long time are only doing that either because of their children, if they have any, or because they are afraid of dying alone or just don't want to grow old by themselves. (It's a bit pathetic the reasons why people get married today; Just all the wrong reasons)
The thought of someone growing old by themselves is most dreadful to a lot of people, and therefore they get hitched before either part can say "I do". Before you know the word of it, that marriage ends up in flames. Now, I had an arguement or a discussion with my friend yesterday, telling her I believed in fairytales but not love and she went crazy. Obviously, to many, if you believe in fairytales then you automatically believe in Love too. That's not how it works.
I am of course leaving open the possibility of there being love between two people, because in almost every relationship or marriage I've heard of, the man always ends up cheating on the wife. It's a mere case where the wife decides to cheat on the husband, slim to none in the relationships I've heard of. I don't personally have anything against guys, although my friend was telling me that I must have a grudge against guys because I don't believe in Love specifically, but I don't.
I'm not the stupid, naive type who lives with her head far above the clouds and who hardly has her feet planted on the ground. I'm here alright, but just saying that life is pretty much what you make it. If you want to live a misrable life, it's well up to you I guess.
What kind of love causes you to want to cheat on your partner? What kind of love causes you to want to tell your partner you are gay, transvesti or the likes many years into your marriage? What love is that?????? That's not love, that's selfishness. But when I spoke to one of my male friends he said that a guy's genital has a brain of its own and sometimes it can control a persons real brain. If someone I dated ever said that to me, I'd kick him to the curb so hard he wouldn't be able to remember his first name. It's BULLSHIT!
As men have desires, so do women, but that doesn't give you the right to sleep around once you're settled down. When you're hitched, you're supposed to be hitched for life, so if you aint ready for that then don't get yourself into something you're not ready for. Think long and hard about it as it is a deal that goes on FOREVER. Well, until death do you part at least.
Point of entry?
Before you settle, you need to know that you are setling for the right reasons, not just because you're pregnant or desperate, don't want to die alone or because you've been single for a long time.
Signed with Love
Chika Anene
Innlegg
