LOVE vs Fairytale

14 November 2009

You can imagine just from the title of this entry which side I am on. That's right, the fairytale side. See, I believe in Love in the family, in friendships (most often), but when it comes to love between two people, I've got a whole different perception. I feel as though it does not exist, that some people who stay together for a long time are only doing that either because of their children, if they have any, or because they are afraid of dying alone or just don't want to grow old by themselves. (It's a bit pathetic the reasons why people get married today; Just all the wrong reasons)

The thought of someone growing old by themselves is most dreadful to a lot of people, and therefore they get hitched before either part can say "I do". Before you know the word of it, that marriage ends up in flames.  Now, I had an arguement or a discussion with my friend yesterday, telling her I believed in fairytales but not love and she went crazy. Obviously, to many, if you believe in fairytales then you automatically believe in Love too. That's not how it works. 

I am of course leaving open the possibility of there being love between two people, because in almost every relationship or marriage I've heard of, the man always ends up cheating on the wife. It's a mere case where the wife decides to cheat on the husband, slim to none in the relationships I've heard of.  I don't personally have anything against guys, although my friend was telling me that I must have a grudge against guys because I don't believe in Love specifically, but I don't. 

I'm not the stupid, naive type who lives with her head far above the clouds and who hardly has her feet planted on the ground. I'm here alright, but just saying that life is pretty much what you make it. If you want to live a misrable life, it's well up to you I guess.   

What kind of love causes you to want to cheat on your partner? What kind of love causes you to want to tell your partner you are gay, transvesti or the likes many years into your marriage? What love is that?????? That's not love, that's selfishness. But when I spoke to one of my male friends he said that a guy's genital has a brain of its own and sometimes it can control a persons real brain. If someone I dated ever said that to me, I'd kick him to the curb so hard he wouldn't be able to remember his first name. It's BULLSHIT!

As men have desires, so do women, but that doesn't give you the right to sleep around once you're settled down. When you're hitched, you're supposed to be hitched for life, so if you aint ready for that then don't get yourself into something you're not ready for. Think long and hard about it as it is a deal that goes on FOREVER. Well, until death do you part at least. 

Point of entry? 

Before you settle, you need to know that you are setling for the right reasons, not just because you're pregnant or desperate, don't want to die alone or because you've been single for a long time. 

                                               Signed with Love

                                                          Chika Anene

Cry for free right here!

13 November 2009

Looking to cry? This is the place. 

I knew the title would startle people. Of course you can't cry here. Well, if you want to I guess you could, but that's not the main reason for me posting this entry. The reason I am posting is to tell you about my opinion on the whole "Boy cheats on girl" or "boy breaks girl's heart". 

Today I discovered that as much as some girls like to go around thinking that guys are assholes, they should remember that so are most women as well. Some women are so cruel they have BITCH spelt out on their forhead, and sometimes good men have to suffer on their hands. It also goes the other way around guys. 

I can admit that I used to have a grudge against guys for a very long time, promising myself I would never like any guy or love any guy, because I simply did not believe in LOVE - a word which was so often misused by people. But the truth of the matter is that as many guys who are jerks there are also girls. There's the good and the bad in everyone, and at times the good just outweighs the bad, other times the bad outweighs the good. Just life I guess, and I've learnt to accept that. 

Point of entry?

If there is any such thing as love between two people, then with the right time and the right mind that love will come along. Obviously sometimes people just have to take risks. Like I used to quote "Maybe love is a risk worth taking."

                           Signed with Love 

                               Chika Anene

N.E.R.D

13 November 2009

No, I'm not cross-eyed, just didn't catch the camera lens at the right time :P. I wear glasses now, which is so much better than not wearing glasses considering the condition of my eyes. I can't see much without them, well, when it comes to reading signs and stuff. Funny enough it seems like something is lingering in the air, because almost all my friends need glasses.

Three of the five of us living in our house are already wearing glasses, but two of the others might need glasses too :P It's really funny. And my best friend is complaining about her eyesight now too, since she went for a driving test and couldn't read the signs she had to read. Hilarious. But I like my glasses. When I bought them there was a deal on 2 for 1. Therefore I have two pairs of glasses. 


                                               Signed with Love

                           Chika Anene